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nininica's avatar

In the world where you are expected to perform always, it's kinda liberating when you intentionally let the performance miss you. It's a brave act to back-out at the last minute of the performance you put out in the show called Life. It's not only the social media that burnt us out even in reality, performance seems everywhere. However, letting yourself flow authentically the unfiltered,and flawed you and letting people scrutinize it without caring is a brave act. Vulnerability is the product of it, and we need that more than being always perfect in everyone's eyes.

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Mónica Bozinoski's avatar

This comment is everything, thank you so much for adding this perspective, I really couldn’t agree more! It really is a liberating feeling!

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Becky Butler's avatar

This is so wonderful! As someone who just had an existential crisis all day yesterday about if it was okay to be so cringe for posting stuff that I found fun and that made me happy even if people talk about it this is soothing! I think I spent so many years of my life twisting myself into exactly who each person I was talking to wanted me to be! It was so tiring to always be re-evaluating myself based on their standards! But I agree I’d rather just exist and kinda say fuck it to the opinions! This piece made me smile :)

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Mónica Bozinoski's avatar

Thank you so much for reading Becky! I'm so glad it made you smile! I can definitely relate to that sentiment, I've also spent so much time (and still do sometimes, even if it pains me to admit) trying to fit this idea of "coolness", hoping to get a sit at the table with people I thought were so cool, and rejecting all the parts of myself I thought would be cringe -- only to come to the conclusion that some of those people weren't that "cool" (whatever that means, right), or didn't have their life that "together", and in fact struggled with so many things I struggled with too (they only did a better job "hiding" it). But it's so liberating when we just let loose, do whatever we want, be whoever we want. We only get this life, so we might as well be cringe and enjoy it as we please <3

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Becky Butler's avatar

Exactly!!! It is so much better to just exist how we need to in every day and care about those who love us instead of those who don’t (and might never!)

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Ishita's avatar

This was the best piece I've ever read in my life, it's like u took all of my fragmented thoughts and put it all in coherent words.

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Mónica Bozinoski's avatar

This means the world to me, thank you so much for reading -- I'm so happy you liked it <3

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Lena van Lundkquist's avatar

Hi Mónica, I just wanted to say I really enjoyed your recent article! I actually included it in my latest newsletter because I thought my readers would really appreciate it too!

No pressure to respond — I just wanted to let you know your work resonated with me.

Looking forward to what you publish next!

Warmly,

Lena

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Mónica Bozinoski's avatar

Can't tell you how much this made my day! Thank you so much, it truly means the world to me <3 I am so happy it resonated with you!

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